Daddy Daughter Dance - #mumsnotallowed

the save-the-date arrived on an otherwise dull and uneventful day. friday 9th february was the appointed day and i nearly jumped out of my skin. if there’s one thing i’ve loved about this move to America it’s all these little cute celebrations and events they hold dear! of course i was immediately texting other mums excitedly. alicia told me what they usually do on the night, and said something about possibly hanging out whilst the girls were at the event with their dads.

sorry what now?

you mean i won’t be there? i can't document every moment like a paparazzo on speed? i lay back down. this event was already giving me a headache. who plans an event where the members of the family least likely to take good pictures are the only ones allowed to attend? how was i going to document this momentous occasion? they might as well have said “it’s your daughters wedding, but you’re not invited.” once i realised there was no time to organise a protest march, i got on with planning the details of this special day. it dawned on me that this was the closest i was getting to planning her wedding so i might as well make the most of it. especially since she currently feels i’m “so fashion” and “should open a shop”. nice! in 25 years when she gets her first boyfriend and he proposes she might not feel the same way. yeah, i said in 25 years! (but in true african style i'll change my mind when she's 21 and start asking where the boyfriend is.)

this outfit literally came together yesterday! the dress i found on thursday in my local zara - $9.99...i told you the small stores have some gems at the end of the sales! the cardi was also from zara and is $5.99 and is  available online in 3 colours.  the shoes are from a British store i love called  la coqueta.  the tiara was my favourite find from  jcrew . at $21.99 instore (but $24.99 online??) it was the most expensive new item, but it brought the look together and i didnt mind as everything else was so cheap! 

this outfit literally came together yesterday! the dress i found on thursday in my local zara - $9.99...i told you the small stores have some gems at the end of the sales! the cardi was also from zara and is $5.99 and is available online in 3 colours. the shoes are from a British store i love called la coqueta. the tiara was my favourite find from jcrew. at $21.99 instore (but $24.99 online??) it was the most expensive new item, but it brought the look together and i didnt mind as everything else was so cheap! 

and truly sometimes things that look good on a flatlay don't look great together on the body. we swapped the cardi for this faux fur bolero from h&m and it looked way better!  similar available here.

and truly sometimes things that look good on a flatlay don't look great together on the body. we swapped the cardi for this faux fur bolero from h&m and it looked way better! similar available here.

we did a mini photo-booth style shoot....just for the drama!

the corsage/boutonniere exchange 

the corsage/boutonniere exchange 

she never esperredit...(sorry my non nigerian friends - its a silly reference!) she was so excited to find she got a corsage!

she never esperredit...(sorry my non nigerian friends - its a silly reference!) she was so excited to find she got a corsage!

that corsage smelt divine, and is now sitting in a trash bag somewhere as it was forgotten at the venue. i kept my cool.

that corsage smelt divine, and is now sitting in a trash bag somewhere as it was forgotten at the venue. i kept my cool.

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i could stare at this photo forever! i love it so much!

i could stare at this photo forever! i love it so much!

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after our brief photo op, we met up with some friends and the dads and daughters went on their merry way. i gave kola my camera and begged him to fully embrace the side of him that is me. after all, we are one.

a blurry pic of sequin clad mini fashionistas? not me..

a blurry pic of sequin clad mini fashionistas? not me..

a non-blurry one showing off maddie's beautiful hair bow - slightly more me! (i would have got a full shot of them both and of that bow...just sayin'...)

a non-blurry one showing off maddie's beautiful hair bow - slightly more me! (i would have got a full shot of them both and of that bow...just sayin'...)

the cha-cha slide was, according to morayo-hope, "the most famous song of the night," beating despacito which is all she wanted to hear played!

the cha-cha slide was, according to morayo-hope, "the most famous song of the night," beating despacito which is all she wanted to hear played!

a "ringside" table? that's so me! who wants to fight to get on the dancefloor when their song comes on?!

a "ringside" table? that's so me! who wants to fight to get on the dancefloor when their song comes on?!

morayo-hope & annabel...too cute! (yes, i'd have taken one of these with each of her friends..)

morayo-hope & annabel...too cute! (yes, i'd have taken one of these with each of her friends..)

for kola's assessment of the evening, i headed to his facebook page where i was greeted with a blurry picture captioned thus:   Great date last night! I was ditched at the door and my companion ignored me all night coz she had to hang out with her friends who also happened to be on dates at the same venue. I finally got some attention at the end of the evening coz she needed a ride home.  #daddydaughterdance2018    i opted for this non blurry one because i am me.

for kola's assessment of the evening, i headed to his facebook page where i was greeted with a blurry picture captioned thus:

Great date last night! I was ditched at the door and my companion ignored me all night coz she had to hang out with her friends who also happened to be on dates at the same venue. I finally got some attention at the end of the evening coz she needed a ride home. #daddydaughterdance2018

i opted for this non blurry one because i am me.

so whilst our girls danced the night away, some of us mums were exchanging blurry pics being drip fed by dads. some images had me in distress: girls sliding in tulle dresses on the floor, and sequin & lace dresses also on the floor dangerously close to 13 year old feet in little heels. and dads gathered on the sidelines watching the action. i wouldn't have let that fly: "MH off the floor please, this isn't girls gone wild 2018." "Darling, why don't you join your daughter on the dancefloor, this is a daddy-daughter dance, not a "daddys watch their daughter's dance". 

and that's why i wasn't allowed to come.

tanaka

xoxo

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