What's your Dream?
"Welcome to Hollywood! What's your dream? Everybody comes here; this is Hollywood, land of dreams. Some dreams come true, some don't; but keep on dreamin' - this is Hollywood. Always time to dream, so keep on dreamin'."
(The Happy Man, Pretty Woman)
remember that line from pretty woman? mummy loves it! don't worry i've never watched it - but apparently one of my aunts did when she was my age as a chaperone to another one of my aunts who was on a hot date! but i digress... mummy is a dreamer. boy can she dream, and fantasise...yep, she sure can do that.
as last year came to a close, she was again sitting and looking at herself wondering where her year had gone. what about those dreams she had had for the year? where did it all go so wrong? well, she did manage to buy the house with daddy, and that was a big one. but business wise, it just wasn't quite what she'd hoped. as she sat there at her pity party; ice-cream in one hand, popcorn in the other and a handy bridget jones screening about to start on ITV, her phone pinged to life. it was a message from one of her university friends' inviting her to attend a vision board session. the goal? to help her put her dreams in one place & make plans to bring them to reality. mummy jumped at the chance and spent the rest of the night humming "Get outta my dreams, get into my car!", and swinging her hips from side to side.
the day arrived and mummy journeyed to london full of expectation and ready to get her life in order. she needed this. heck, we needed this. the smell of popcorn in our house was getting annoying - and i'm a kid. she says Tomi, the event host, created an amazing atmosphere with some lovely music softly playing in the background, and just the right number of participants there, including my aunty lola! it was a happy coincidence to find each other at the same event! in that room, mummy felt she could make anything happen. she was focused and magazines were being ripped with reckless abandon to create boards that reflected each person's dream for their lives. they were encouraged to choose both pictures and words and paste them onto their boards. mummy had done something similar before, but not like this. there was something about being in an environment with like-minded people that made her feel less like a failure and alone, and more like part of a group of people that were not willing to just be satisfied with the status quo. having the vision board in front of her everyday is a constant reminder of who she can actually be & the life she wants to live. also, hearing others speak of their frustrations, plans and vision really got her motivated. one of the best motivators was learning that Tomi herself got to where she is via this very route.
mummy's vision board all framed and ready for her study gallery wall
the most painful thing for my mum was realising she just isn't much fun anymore. (was she ever though? hmmm...i'll check with that uni aunty...). in her head she rides bikes, goes for walks in the country, loves to swim, plays tennis, takes baths with us and goes for days out in fun places. but in reality she's cleaning the house / cleaning someone / cleaning the house / doing groceries / cleaning the house / ironing; and dreaming about those fun things. as were some of the mums at the workshop. so top of the agenda was to have more fun and do the things she loves. when i'm 16 and free to leave home, i'll tell you the truth about how it panned out in 2016. or you could follow this blog and see for yourself....feel free to comment any time you feel you haven't seen a post about us doing something fun! mummy thoroughly recommends this vision board workshop to anyone feeling lost in the maze of dreams vs reality. the next one isn't far away - 12th march 2016. go for it, i plead on behalf of your kids / future kids!
**this is a genuine review of my experience at this event. i have not been paid to write this post, nor was i paid to attend the event / publicise future events. i would happily disclose if i had been cos that that would mean i had arrived! free clothes, free events, free cars.....holler! did i type that? **